Thursday, February 17, 2011

"The EX"

Last night i had a dream that included an Ex-boyfriend. We were at his home, which i had once shared with him for about 2 years. I was in the back yard and there was a deer who was almost charging me. I had some food in my hand which the deer wanted, but i couldn't get the deer to back down. I also had a grocery cart in my hand and was using that to keep the deer back. It was coming at me from underneath the cart. My Ex then took the deer and killed it by breaking its neck. I told him i could have handled it if i had the gun i had earlier as we were walking back to the house. As we returned back to the house we were scurrying to get ready for my sisters wedding, in my dream i knew that my sister was already married, and was thinking this was a vow renewal. It was at 12:15 and the reception was at 1pm. I was worried we would be late and then seen a clock and we had 30mins to get ready. I was gathering things and had to get a shirt ironed for my Ex. The clothes i needed were in the fridge and i thought to myself i really need to keep the clothes out of the fridge, and that when i took them out, the fridge looked bare. I thought to myself i needed to go grocery shopping.
Then my Ex was gone and i had to use the bathroom. His older brother was there and told me he had to use it too, there was no door or walls around the bathroom. It was like the toilet was in the middle of the living room. He was just waking up and had another man with him, i thought to myself " I knew he was gay"
( But IRL he is not, he is married with children. ) So i was sitting on the toilet and i had my period, and i was embarrassed he was just there waiting for me to finish using the toilet so he could take a shit. The whole time i had an infant in my arms. I believe it was my son as an infant. I finished and went to the porch where i had placed my son into his car seat and placed a blue blanked over the seat and prepared to depart to the wedding.

The sight i am going to use to interpret the dream is
This site uses key words to interpret the dream, i will make the words i use BOLD in the dream and list them below. At the end of each interpretation i will give my take on this item and how i feel it may connect to my waking life. Sometimes dreams will not make sense to me for a few day or longer. IF something comes up later in my life that connects to this dream i will update the post with the date and connection.  The dream dictionary interpretation is in blue and mine in black.

Ex-boyfriend~ To see an old ex-boyfriend from childhood in your dream, refers to a freer, less encumbered relationship. The dream serves to bring you back to a time where the responsibilities of adulthood (or marriage) did not interfere with the spontaneity of romance. You need to recapture the excitement, freedom, and vitality of youth that is lacking in your present relationship. To dream that you are being massaged by your ex-boyfriend, suggests that you need to let go of some of that defensiveness that you have been putting forth as a result of a past relationship. You may have put up a wall or armor around you. You need to learn to trust people again. If you dream that your ex-boyfriend is dressed in a suit at a hospital, then suggests that you have come to terms with that relationship and have completed the healing process.

*This can make sense to me in may ways with the relationship i have with my husband now. He is trying to help me recover from the tragedy of losing our daughter in October and i believe somehow this point in my dream may be telling me that he IS trying and i need to let him in more. I need to bring down my defenses and let my husband care for me like he wants to. I also need to be more inhibited when it comes to our romance. My defenses have been on lock down since the tragedy of loosing our newborn.

Deer~ To see a deer in your dream, symbolizes grace, compassion, gentleness, meekness and natural beauty. It has feminine qualities and may point to the feminine aspect within yourself. It also represents independence, alertness, and virility. Consider the symbol to be a pun for someone who is "dear" to you. Alternatively, the dream represents vulnerability and naivety�. As a result, others may take advantage of you and your gullibility.

*I am not sure how this compares to the deer charging me.... Maybe i am resisting my feminine side and being too overruling in my relationship. I need to let my husband take on the role of the male and be the leader in the family? I am a very controlling person by nature and maybe i have to be more graceful, compassionate and gentile.

Grocery Cart~ To see or use a shopping cart in your dream, indicates that you are reaping the rewards and benefits of your hard work. Alternatively, to push a shopping cart in your dream, suggests that you need to search out more options for some aspect of your life. Remember that you have choices and you do not need to settle. If the shopping cart is empty, then it suggests that you are coming up empty in some endeavor or plan.

* My take on this interpretation can be in many aspects of my waking life. I was using the empty grocery cart to ward off the charging deer. I did quit my job yesterday, which was a much need choice for my own health and well being. Maybe i feel i am coming up empty on what choice or step i need to make next?

Wedding~To dream that you are attending a wedding, consider how you feel at the wedding. If you are upset or sad, then it means that you are unhappy about the current status of your life. If you are happy, then you are embracing a new change in your life.
* I was planning on attending a wedding, and i was worried i would be late. So maybe having the worried feeling is me worrying about the current transition in my life about my work or maybe in general what i could do next in life.

Fridge/Clothes~To see or open a refrigerator in your dream, represents your chilling personality and/or cold emotions. The dream may also be telling you that you need to put some goal, plan, or situation on hold. Alternatively, a refrigerator signifies that you have accomplished what you have been unconsciously seeking.
To dream of your clothes, is symbolic of your public self and how you are perceived. It is indicative of the act you put on in front of others. Clothes are also an indication of your condition and status in life. Thus, if you wear clothes that do not suit you or that you normally would not wear, then it suggests that you are putting up a front and trying to deceive others. Something in your life is "unsuitable". It may be a symbol of hypocrisy and being someone that you are not. Alternatively, it could also mean that you are revealing a hidden part of yourself to the world. To dream that your clothes are soiled and you are trying to clean them, signify your attempts to change something about your character. You may need to change your old habits and old ways of thinking. To dream that you are wearing brand new clothes, signify new attitudes and a new persona. You are finding a different way of expressing yourself.

* I put these two together because i was taking the clothes out of the fridge and feel there is a connection to them being together. Maybe i have to put on "hold" or "chill out" on the idea or feelings i have on how i am perceived by others? Maybe the job i just quit did not  "suite" me and i need to just chill out and relax about me quitting. I also had to Iron the clothing and was thinking to myself that  had to keep the clothes out of the fridge..... maybe i need to not be so cold in my ways? This could go in many directions!

Bathroom~ To dream that you are in the bathroom, relates to your instinctual urges. You may be experiencing some burdens/feelings and need to "relieve yourself". Alternatively, a bathroom symbolizes purification and self-renewal. You need to cleanse yourself, both emotionally and psychologically. To dream that you are in a public restroom with no stalls or that there are a lot of people around while you are trying to do your business, signifies your frustrations about getting enough privacy. You are always putting others ahead of your own needs. As a result, you are lacking a sense of personal space. Alternatively, the dream indicates that you are having difficulties letting go of old emotions. You are afraid that if you reveal these feelings, then others around you will judge and criticize you.

* This can also be interpreted in many ways but makes sense to me in a few. The fact that i had my menstrual cycle and was holding a newborn may be suggesting my want and need for another child. I am feeling burdened by the fact i am not pregnant and the fact i lost my newborn and that has created so many of these feeling of anguish. I am pretty public on the subject ( blog at  So maybe not having the privacy on that subject is why i had none in the restroom. Not really sure why it would be my Ex's brother though.... I am still talking with his sister-in-law and sister and i know they read the blog, maybe that is it?  Maybe some people are criticizing the fact i am so honest and open on my blog? Or maybe it is a fear i have.

Infant~ To see an infant in your dream, represents a brand new project. It signifies possibilities and potentials.

*Pretty self explanatory i guess.

Tell me what you think!
Share with me some of your dreams!
Have you had similar dreams & do they connect with any of these interpretations?
Do you know of any other great dream interpretation web pages i could use for my new blog?

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